Divorce is about loss -- loss of the family as the child has known it, sometimes even the loss of a familiar home and often many other changes. Loss often brings deep sadness and anger. One thing we can give children is the right to feel -- the right to feel sad and angry...the right to feel pain...along with the security of knowing that they still do have adults in their life who will care for them and love them.

Children want to know that some things will not change. They need to know there will still be rules. Rules help them feel secure and loved. Especially if children feel omnipotent, they need firm rules. Even though they may fight the rules, they really do feel more secure knowing that adults are in charge.